Clay Aiken - Evidence

There is plenty of evidence to prove Clay Aiken is adorable, handsome, kind, caring, a true humanitarian, and has an incredible singing talent.

Clay is also full of surprises, one being we never know what hair style he's going to have the next time we see him!
Pictures say it best, so study the following, and choose your favourite

-- if you can!

Double Click the thumbnail to get a closer look, these are WP sized.

Then have fun with the new Clay cluzzles, brought to you by our friend Bsrefong, and enjoy the beautiful song by Clay in the new montage.

Don't forget to check out the National Inclusion Project fundraisers, the deadlines for these are drawing close - order now!









Do you prefer the shorter hairstyles?








or do you prefer the longer hair styles?





The above examples show a lot of colour shades as well.

Some of them are due to the lighting.

Sally's Special Puzzles
Amazing Claze




Rebus8




answer at end of blog.




Fundraisers

The 2009 Champions Gala raised over $465k for the National Inclusion Project!!
Read about it at Triangle Business News
or National Inclusion Project webpage



Nov. 15 is the deadline to order your fan made 2010 Clay Aiken Calendar.

It's a gem!
For more information contact: Rosa Shurtz at: rosash@comcast.net

Profits go to the National Inclusion Project.





HOLIDAY SEASON - Wrapping for Inclusion

What: A nationwide awareness and fundraiser campaign for the National Inclusion Project.
When: The Holiday Season
Why: To help raise awareness and support for the National Inclusion Project, spread holiday cheer, and have fun!
How: If you would like to volunteer, see
National Inclusion Project webpage and click on the "Get Involved" tab.







Deck the Halls for Inclusion
order deadline is November 23, 2009

Deck the Halls for Inclusion

Support the National Inclusion Project's mission of inclusion for children of ALL abilities while decorating homes and offices with beautiful, handmade Rockdale wreaths and other natural items this holiday season! Wreaths also make wonderful gifts for family and friends.
Purchases must be made from the Project's exclusive Rockdale Wreaths store in order for the National Inclusion Project to receive funds:
Share the gift of inclusion. Inclusion works, and it is a gift worth giving.

This is an authorized fundraiser of the National Inclusion Project.





On the Wings of Love
by Clay Aiken
Adorable!







The quotes in the montage pictures are by Robert Louis Stevenson - really good advice on how to be happy over a hundred years ago that still holds true today.

How To Be Happy
by Robert Louis Stevenson (1850 – 1894)

1. Make up your mind to be happy. Learn to find pleasure in simple things.

2. Make the best of your circumstances. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.

3. Don't take yourself too seriously. Don't think that somehow you should be protected from misfortune that befalls other people.

4. You can't please everybody. Don't let criticism worry you.

5. Don't let your neighbor set your standards. Be yourself.

6. Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt.

7. Never borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder to bear than real ones.

8. Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealousy, enmity, grudges. Avoid people who make you unhappy.

9. Have many interests. If you can't travel, read about new places.

10. Don't hold post-mortems. Don't spend your time brooding over sorrows or mistakes. Don't be one who never gets over things.

11. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.

12. Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time to be unhappy.



click for Rebus answer

Clay Aiken Cyber Bullying - Cyber Stalking

New Update!

The final days to contribute to America's Giving Challenge for National Inclusion Project are here. The challenge ends November 6.
To win the $10,000 for the project, we must stay in the top 12.
Currently we are holding #10, by a slim lead.
I'm squeezing the budget (with a gift from a friend) to put $10.00 in every day now until the end.
Last day donation times:
Thursday, Nov. 5 - 3:00 p.m. EST to Friday, Nov. 6 - 3:00 p.m. EST )
GO TEAM!!


America's Giving Challenge



It's For the Children!



What has this blog title got to do with Clay Aiken?
If you haven't read his book
Learning to Sing Hearing the Music in Your Life it is highly recommended for all ages.





Not long ago a casual acquaintance asked me if I ever heard of "cyber bullies". This lady is not using a computer, and asked me as I do occasional things for her on mine. She told me her granddaughter in university was upset by being bullied on-line, and the lady was confused by this. She thought bullies were only physical beings in elementary school or maybe gangs. I compiled the following information and printed it out for her. She admitted to living a very sheltered life and was horrified that things like this were done.
What could I say, other than I see it every day on the internet no matter how much I try not to and have learned to quickly pass it by.

What is bullying?

Bullying is persistent unwelcome behaviour, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings imposed, and much more.

History is full of stories about the bullies of their times. Why? How do children learn this despicable act? They learn it from their parents and peers.
Unfortunately this bad behavior has spread with the advent of the internet. People both young and old seem to get a kick out of being rude and disrespectful. It's sad.



Adult cyber bullies are referred to as cyber stalkers

The Internet provides the perfect forum for cyber bullies, individuals whose aim is to gain gratification from the distress caused by provoking and tormenting others.

The anonymity, ease of provocation, and almost infinite source of targets means the Internet is full of predators from pedophiles targeting children to serial bullies targeting ... anybody.

Cyber bullies get a perverse sense of satisfaction (called gratification) doing this.
Serial bullies harbour a lot of internal aggression which they direct at others.

This may include projection, false criticism and patronising sarcasm whilst contributing nothing of any value. In every case it's a fabrication or a distortion - usually the former.
The purpose of this tactic is to wind people up. Don't be fooled into believing it has any validity - it doesn't.

People who bully are adept at creating conflict between those who would otherwise pool negative information about them.

The method of creating conflict is provocation which bullies delight in because they know they can always coerce at least one person to respond in a manner which can then be distorted and used to further flame and inflame people. And so it goes on.



The bully then sits back and gains gratification from seeing others engage in destructive behaviour towards each other. This is known as trolling.
Most serial bullies are also serial attention-seekers. More than anything else they want attention. It doesn't matter what type of attention they get, positive or negative, as long as they can provoke someone into paying them attention.

It's like a 2-year-old child throwing a tantrum to get attention from a parent. The best way to treat bullies is to refuse to respond and to refuse to engage them - which they really hate.

In other words, do not reply to their postings, and on forums carry on posting without reference to their postings as if they didn't exist. In other words, treat nobodies as nobodies.

The anger of a serial bully is especially apparent when they come across someone who can see through them to espy the weak, inadequate, immature, dysfunctional aggressive individual behind the mask.

The objectives of bullies are Power, Control, Domination, Subjugation. They get a kick out of seeing you react.

It doesn't matter how you react, the fact they've successful provoked a reaction is, to the bully, a sign that their attempt at control have been successful.

After that, it's a question of wearing you down. The more your try to explain, negotiate, conciliate, etc the more gratification they obtain from your increasingly desperate attempts to communicate with them.

Understand that it is not possible to communicate in a mature adult manner with a disordered individual.



Dealing with Cyber bullies/stalkers

- Don't respond and don't engage. This is not as easy to do as it sounds. It's a natural response to want to defend yourself, and to put the person right.

- Never argue with a serial bully; it's not a mature adult discussion, but like dealing with a child or immature teenager; whilst the serial bully may be an adult on the outside, on the inside they are like a child who's never grown up - and probably never will.

- The provoker watches, waits and stirs the pot with the occasional additional provocation.
In this context, gratification is a perverse form of satisfaction akin to, but distinct from, pleasure.

- When people use bullying behaviours they project their own weaknesses, failings and shortcomings on to others.
Refusing to respond and engage will result in the cyberbully losing interest and moving on.

On to a nicer topic -- Can Clay Aiken sing country?
You bet he can! I love songs on his early demo recordings, a number of which are country.
This montage is for Clay's

I'm Not Supposed to Love You Any More
from the demo LWLHD





Clay Nation did a great job with the Trick or Treat Challenge fundraiser for Halloween weekend.
Please donate daily if you can, and/or hang in until the BIG PUSH for the last two days!
We want to keep in the top 12! More information on that later!!
America's Giving Challenge

Another yearly fundraiser project in motion:
Wrapping for Inclusion is another way to contribute to The National Inclusion Project. Read all about it at:
Wrapping for Inclusion

What: A nationwide awareness and fundraiser campaign for the National Inclusion Project.
When: The Holiday Season
Why: To help raise awareness and support for the National Inclusion Project, spread holiday cheer, and have fun!
How: If you would like to volunteer, please send your contact info to Aron Hall Inclusion Project .